Love one another as I have loved you, the greatest commandment of the lord to his followers. Love is a decision to nature, to take care.
Once a boy asked the teacher
“Sir what is the difference between ‘like’ and ‘love’?
Socrates thought for a while and said
“When you ‘like’ a flower, you just pluck it. But when you ‘love’ a flower, you water it daily”
Love marriage is a decision to water daily… to the end of one’s life.
However as Pope Francis warned the reduction of the sacrament of marriage to a mere association challenges the very spirit of the family and the reciprocal love (as understood most often) which I would personally like to call it as an asymmetrical love (which supposed to be the spirit of every sacrament commitment) to the other. Today as Pope say we call everything family. Conveniently forgetting the fact that being proposed is not marriage, it’s an association.
However, these many “new forms” of unions which are “totally destructive and limiting” reduces the “greatness of the love of marriage.”
When, as Pope explains, contemporary society started to “devalue” the sacrament by turning it into a social rite, it got down to remove the most essential element, which is union with God. Which in turn produced many broken marriages and divided (so called) families.
Most often we propose traditional marriage (especially in India) as a best solution to it, saying we stared to love after the marriage. Some time it so happens in this marriages we are forced to love, for we do it for somebody else sake (moved by social statues). However the responsibility in a love marriage lies in the lovers, it is a decision they are taking to “water” for the nourishment of each other.
It is a matured decision of the people of reformed hearts, it is holiness, renewing one’s (own) heart. And Pope observes, “saying that a renewed heart is able of go beyond disagreements such as family conflicts, war and those that arise out of the “culture of the provisional.” Lovers too be able to move out of themselves, seeing the call for responsibility in the partner. It is not a responsibility forced by a third party rather by the presence of the immediate other (which often lacks in arranged marriages).
I do feel, people moved by love for the other, also can change the culture of the society.